Do you look at dating as going about you daily life and if it
happens, it happens?
1. Make it happen versus
Let it happen!
There are 2 ways to get a tan this time of year. It's a lot like dating
when you think about the effort we put in. Method one is you go about your
daily life, do a little gardening, fix some things outside around your
home and somewhere over the course of the summer you may receive the tan
you wanted. On the other hand we may get busy outside, burn a few times
and it may even rain on our days off. Again, If it happens, it happens.
Then we have those who make it happen. You go to the tanning parlor first
thing in the spring, You set your goal, put in the effort and you make it
happen. Quickly you get what the results you want in a short amount of
Honestly, letting it happen can eventually work but in most cases we will
never see the results we want. To get the desired dating results you want
this summer try these 3 easy steps!
Step one is
to put in the effort to "make it happen!" Set time aside to get out of
your house or apartment. Unless you have an attractive single neighbor.
You are not going to meet anyone at home. If the
Internet is keeping you home. No worries the online world will still be
there when you get home ;)
If you are still reading this congratulations. You are ready for step two.
We have done a lot of surveys this past year and we have determined being
approachable is a very important step in meeting someone. It's easy to
throw up walls built on negative past experiences. You may not even
recognize these walls.
Ask yourself: When you are in a singles
have you ever caught
"I am not going to find anyone here"
"Why is no one approaching me?"
"Why is no one asking me to dance?"
This kind of thinking can put up walls and affect you self confidence. You
may start slouching your shoulders or be afraid to walk around to mix and
mingle. You may start smiling less. You are now unapproachable!
Step two is be positive. Do
not have self doubt. Push negative thoughts out of your mind and allow
yourself to radiate self confidence with positive thinking! Are you
ready to make it happen and conquer your fears with positive attitude? In
your next social setting you are now ready to make it happen.
3 initiating contact! If you never tried initiating conversation
before now is the time to do it! Start small. Your goal is to only
make contact. Ask the the time, give someone a compliment or try making
small talk with someone you find attractive.
Tips: Make eye contact, stand tall and proud and #1 SMILE! You may not
receive the same results from everyone you talk to but if you make enough
contact you will start seeing positive results!
This is the best time of year to start fresh. The weather is warm, people
are happy and the sun is shinning! This is good news for singles! People
are just more approachable right now!
We would like a couple of volunteers who have always let it
happen versus make it happen try these 3 steps and share their stories
afterwards. You can try it at your next social setting or at the dance.